So You Wanna Be Juliet... and Juliet? A Guide to Domestic Partnerhood in California
Let's face it, weddings are expensive. Between the venue that costs more than your rent for a year, the caterer who insists on serving miniature quiches (who even eats those things?), and your aunt Gertrude's questionable dance moves on the floor, it's enough to make you consider eloping to Vegas... with your best bud. But hold on a sec, lovebirds! California offers a rather excellent alternative: domestic partnerships.
Domestic Partnership: Not Your Grandma's Rom-Com
Think of domestic partnership as the cool, laid-back cousin of marriage. You get most of the same rights and benefits (hospital visits, inheritance rights, the joy of confusing your coworkers about your relationship status), but without the pressure of an aisle walk or an officiant who looks like they wandered off the set of "American Idol."
But First, Are You Two... Domestic Partner Material?
Before you rush off to get matching "World's Best Domestic Partner" mugs (we won't judge, that's adorable), there are a few checkpoints.
- The Roomie Rule: You gotta actually live together. Think of it as a super chill pre-marriage trial period, minus the stress of in-laws (hopefully).
- The 18 and Over Club: Sorry, teenagers, this grown-up stuff. Gotta be at least 18 to play.
- The Not-So-Secret Admirer Clause: Neither of you can be married or already in a domestic partnership. This ain't a polyamory play, folks.
- The Blood Test Blues (Thankfully Absent!): Unlike marriage, there's no weird blood relation check here. Your grandma can finally marry your mailman... if that's their thing (not judging, but maybe send us some therapy bills after that wedding).
Bonus points if you can share inside jokes that would make pigeons fall out of the sky and confuse your pets on a regular basis. True domestic partner power couple vibes.
Alright, Alright, How Do We Do This Thing?
Now for the fun part! Becoming domestic partners is pretty straightforward. Here's the need-to-know:
- The Formidable Form: Head over to the California Secretary of State's website (CA.gov) and download the snazzy-titled "Declaration of Domestic Partnership" (Form DP-1).
- The Notarization Nation: Get both signatures notarized. Think of it as getting your domestic partnership passport stamped. You can usually find notaries at banks or courthouses. Just don't ask them to witness any thumb wars or competitive napping sessions – that's not their thing.
- The Big Send Off: Mail the completed and notarized form (along with a filing fee, because adulting) to the Secretary of State's office. You can also submit it in person if you're feeling fancy.
And Then... You're Domestic Partners!
Congratulations! You've unlocked a new level in your relationship. Now you can celebrate with matching pajamas, a victory dance that involves questionable air guitar skills (because why not?), and the smug satisfaction of knowing you saved a boatload of money compared to your married friends.
P.S. Domestic partnership isn't for everyone, and that's totally okay! There's no pressure here. But if you're looking for a commitment that's equal parts awesome and drama-free, then this might just be the perfect path for you and your partner-in-crime (or coffee dates, or movie marathons, whatever floats your boat).
